Planned and Desperately Wanted
My name is Derek Smart, and I am married to my wonderful wife, Kay Smart. This photo is us after 50 years of blissful happy marriage. Together, we planned on having six children, after we got married on 19th January 1974 aged just 18 and 19. We didn’t plan on when, just that we both wanted six children. There was just one stipulation that we both agreed on. We would keep going all the time that Kay’s health allowed her to. As soon as we encounter anything that would affect Kay’s health we would stop immediately. Coincidental or not, but Kay was doing well right up until our sixth pregnancy, five weeks before she was due to give birth. They discovered that she had placenta previa which meant she could not have a normal delivery. She had to have a caesarean section. We believe that was our warning signal. We would not be able to continue, even if we wanted to. This was a sign to stop. We had reached our agreed number, and despite difficulties with unforeseen accidents whilst raising six children but nothing adversely affect Kay’s health. The point I am emphasizing is that all of our children were planned. There was no accidents, no unplanned pregnancies, we wanted every one of our children and never regretted having them. That is how we were with them up until they got married when everything changed. Why do I emphasize this point? Simply because we were accused of not wanting our children and this was our method of excluding them. Nothing could be further from the truth. Their emancipation of us has been extremely distressing for both Kay and I and if you know us you will know that is the truth
I have to say that I really enjoy building my blog. Watching is literally grow into a data Base of my life
We Did Our Best 