We Did Our Best

Two sweet old grandparents incapable of hurting anyone. I was sat here contemplating my lot when my mind wondered on to what it usually does, my children, and how Hannah started a slime ball of innuendos and blatant lies about how poor I was as a parent.https://wedidourbest.blog/i-did-the-best-i-could-do-for-them/

I then came across some footage that Steven, my son, had shown me, where Elliott’s step son was collecting an award for best new comer as a mobile mechanic with Elliott and felt proud of the fact that the occupation of mechanic had spanned through 4 generations of my family. My dad was a mechanic in the RAF back in the 30s and 40s. He, and my father in law had taught me everything I then knew, in the 70s and 80s, about being a motor mechanic and I then topped it up. I had my own garage selling cars and vans, repairing body damage and respraying, I did full engine rebuilds, servicing and diagnosis and routine maintenance. I invested many years into the vocations that related to all types of automobile maintenance. I got to a point were all I had to do was to listen to a faulty car engine to diagnose its faults. Elliott then picked up on the trade and has been successful in his job as a motor mechanic learning much of his trade from the long lineage of motor mechanics in the Smart genealogy and government training courses, now, during his elevation to what he is today, I did many things to help him on his way, like pay for parts arrange collection and drop off of cars being MOT and spent long periods of time under cars I was repairing and let him use my car as his mobile maintenance vehicle. Elliott’s step son has entered that long line. So, as the result of me teaching Elliott most of his trade and giving him valuable assistance to carry out his trade, he has become a successful mobile mechanic able to sustain his wife and family. That seems to contradict the negativity his wife eagerly proclaims about me and how to loose 5/6 children to Satan’s enticing’s indicates a poor father and not a stealthy Satan with an arsenal of trickery at his disposal.

Then I thought about my other children and saw the same pattern developing in my other children, all following in trades and occupations I had mastered or been interested in and becoming successful at them.

Derek, now an accountant. I have degree level maths (Level 4) and accounting credential that Derek adopted and succeeded in. It was a smart family trait to be astute at figures and how to manipulate them.

Donny, a computer engineer for Tata Steel Works in Port Talbot, I owned my own custom computer manufacturing business, repair centre, customisation, software tailoring, and complete maintenance. I literally had him working for me in my business for a short period teaching him most of what he knows and has used to make himself a successful computer maintenance engineer.

Naomi and Khadra went into human resources and mental health both succeeding in their vocations and raising a family. I have educational qualifications in sociology and was once interested in that vocation and I worked with social services dealing with those who suffered with mental health, including myself. I have always had a healthy interest in people and how the mind functions. I am also a fully qualified project engineer utilising human resources to bring projects into the manufacturing stage and sales, basically customer relations, I worked on from inception.

Steven is still succeeding in his academic career. 5 out of 6 of my children have thus far successfully followed in my foot steps and I expect the sixth child to do the same in science. and has been successful in learning from what Hannah calls a bad parental figure. 5 people enjoying the rewards of following their dad’s chosen professions successfully and making successful people, who then sat by and said nothing to the person accusing there loyal dad of being a bad parent, but instead, joined the band wagon as they reap the rewards of professions clearly influenced by that very poor parent. Stinks doesn’t it. Sorry Cathay, but I had to record this as a ridiculous and erroneous observation made by Hannah. Saying I am a bad parent but then lavishly living off the proceeds of the business that her husband was schooled in by his so called useless parent. A complete contradiction.

As far as i am concerned, I succeeded in my role as a parent, demonstrated by who they are today, they failed at their roles as children, demonstrated by my Zimmer frame that goes before me and that paralysis I feel in my left side caused by the stroke they induced and Kay’s broken heart and depression caused by what they did to a kind, caring, understanding mother and friend who did her best along side me. When I read this to Kay, she said, yes, it is true, but why did they choose your line of employment if they thought you were a bad dad. Surely they would choose employment as far from yours as they could get and why wait until they got married to complete there chosen vocations. It does not make sense. Like something else is driving them. Like they wanted to be like their dad but did not want him to think they loved him. Strange, very strange.

Five out of six of my children have reached degree level education and Steven is achieving his degree right now. I sustained and encouraged all five of them as they went through their academic experiences because I wanted them to be the best they could be because I love each and every one of them unconditionally and assisting your children as they go through their academic careers is what good parents are known to do, contrary to what Hannah proclaims. The are all successful individuals, mission accomplished. Sadly I do not have photographic evidence of Derek and Donny’s graduation but you have my word they have them. I sacrificed much to make sure of that, with no regrets but plenty of pride.