Derek, I had a difficult relationship with mu daughter and I hardly ever liked her but I loved her unconditionally and would have died for her. Unfortunately God knew he could take care of her better then me and he took her home 3 years ago. I think we raised a generation that do not understand the difference between loving and liking or having respect for their parents. God Bless you and Kay for trying so hard and succeeding in loving your children in spite of how they are treating you.
Derek’s Response
Thank you so much for that Cathay. I remember when you lost your daughter and really felt for you. I remember thinking, how will you ever deal with that. I have thought about your loss. I still have 5 children out there somewhere but you have nothing. I find that hard to even think about let alone contemplate. I really am sorry for your loss and i do pray that your burden will be lightened. With my children what hurts me the most is that they are capable of doing what they are doing. I could never do that to my parents. I just know that I couldn’t. I loved my parent too much to ever hurt them. I do not understand their capabilities. They have zero respect for Kay and I and why, Because I could not lend her my university laptop, and because I raised my voice at her husband, and because she had to babysit for an hour for us. Or with Elliott, because I had a Chinese and gave them fish and chips. If you knew what I did for them you would not believe it, like feeding Elliott’s family many times and loaning and giving money to Naomi every month for months and her husband is a lawyer. I am fizzling out though Cathay. Life has lost its lustre and getting out of bed in the mornings is getting harder. I no longer have the enthusiasm to open the front door and walk out of it. I just need to understand why. Kay was a wonderful mother and I did what was expected of me, I provided. We did not abuse them they are spoilt brats but the problem is that everyone was created out of Kays and my love for each other. None of them were a mistake we really wanted them all and gave them the best life and most love that we could so how is my daughter able to say that she is HAPPY with her decision to keep us as far away from our grandchildren as possible. Thank you Cathay Birch for writing. It It is very much appreciated. It is a bright ray of sunlight in an otherwise miserable rainy day. Thank you
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