Steven
Elliott Smart hhmmm interesting, but it doesn’t change my opinion that we weren’t abused as kids. i liked my childhood and I have some good memories from it and I’m sure you do as well.
Elliott Smart I don’t remember you at all being unhappy when we were younger, in fact you were a confident kid and confident young man, I don’t think those traits imply being abused, do you ?
Steven
Sometimes in the heat of an argument people say things they don’t mean.
Derek
Steven Smart that is exactly right. If it was said, which I am doubting, It was said in haste but held no efficacy. Hannah has sustained it to him. It is her who does not want us in her life, she has never made us feel welcome in her home and barely ever talked to us when we were there, although she has plenty to say here. This is what she wants, Elliott to herself without the love of his parents, that is often found in broken homes. She wants total control of him, mind, and spirit. People say things they do not mean all the time. I may have said it, but they carried it out and maintained it.They ignored us at church for three years. I tried talking to him, you were there Steven, but he hid behind Alex. He is now squirming out of the wrong he perpetrated. He does not act like a son should. He is under another’s control, Hannah. As she said, “Elliott and I are not going to answer your messages anymore,” demonstrating her total control over him. No, Elliott, you have no choice, Hannah said
Derek
“This is a lie perpetuated by Hannah” it is like when ever she talks about there kids she always say “My Kids”, not “Our Kids” they belong to her not Elliott, just like Elliott is one of her posessions and we are unwelcomed guests at her table. It is her mental illness doing the talking, but Elliott is blinded by his love for her. He cannot see what is obvious to everybody else.
Elliott
Derek R Smart I’m curious how you’ve been able to accurately assess the character of someone you banished from your life and denied access to their own mother over three years ago.
Derek
I did not banish Elliott. He blocked me and ignored my letters to him. He has not responded to any of my efforts to contact him. As God be my witness, He has banished me, otherwise we would be talking right now. We do not want this, only Hannah wants it.
Derek
I have been looking closely at your claim her. For three years you have given us the Silent Treatment. People in church have asked, almost everytime I am well enough to attend, “are they still not talking to you, are they still giving you the silent treatment?” and so on. Most congregationalists have noticed you ignoring us. Most who have been to my grandchildren baptism ask why I was not there. Many ask why my grandchildren do not sit with us. I know it is because Hannah is narcissistic but they think it is because of your disrespect towards us. Others witnessed you blanking your mother and me. All in all it is common knowledge that you refuse to communicate with us. But I could not figure out why you have just been so vocal over your defence. Then I realised. I said that to you when we originally fell out. Since then we have made friends and it obviously became null and void. I have not said that this time, but how conniving of you being so dishonest in an attempt to gain advantage and try to make me look bad. Yes, I said that at that time in the heat of that moment but as a father it is all words to try and make you see sense but it does not relate to this fall out by you. You took the initiative and blocked us everywhere, sent back birthday presents via your friend Caroline. Refused to answer my letters to you offering you an olive branch. Everything we tried you blocked or ignore it. All the evidence is firmly against you. You did give us the Silent Treatment, you have contravenes the commandment to honour your parents and you have broken 5 related commandments, like the new and everlasting covenant. So please, stop the nonsense over me giving you the silent treatment and when Hannah tries to get you to say anything like that again realise that she is not the sharpest tool in the shed and pray about it.
Derek
Elliott, I will always be your mate and I will always forgive your transgressions and love you without conditions, when you are ready.
We Did Our Best 