I am not certain if Elliott is choosing to foreloin his heritage or if his mental illness has caused him to forget. Either way he appears to be writing as though he is completely unaware of it, which i very much doubt. Elliott listed as one of his gripes, a couple of days ago, that he was forced to live in a caravan. When I first met Kay she told me that she was a traveller, or, as non-travellers call them “a Gypsy’s” I knew very little about travellers, but the prospects of dating her intrigued me. When I got to know how they lived, I wanted the same lifestyle. The comradery, decency, and moral standards all impressed me. So much so that Kay and I were married within 5 months of dating, so, I adopted every aspect of traveller life that I could. We lived in caravans/trailers and really enjoyed the lifestyle. Kay was no half bred she was a fully fledged traveller, as we’re her family before her. As a people, they were always friendly, helpful, full of tradition and respect. They were a lovely people who I fell in love with very quickly. I am pretty sure that Elliott was fully aware of Kay’s heritage. We never hid it or was in anyway ashamed of it. I fell deeply in love with Kay because of her high moral standards and today I am so proud of who Kay is. I want to shout it from the highest mountain top, but Kay tends to stop me. I loved walking out of my door in the morning into the natural countryside with its flora and wildlife. So, how can you turn something so beautiful into a punishment. My Steven felt so jealous of Elliott’s time in the caravan. For one year, we moved around the country, and yes, they did miss a year’s schooling just as Elliott was being bullied and ready to burst, and Khadra was realising her sexuality. It was the best thing we could have done for them as they became better adults for their experience. Elliott never complained about living in a caravan, indeed, he gave an impression like he was enjoying it. So when he says he was forced to live in a caravan, he was lying. I do not know why but Elliott changed in all so many ways when he met Hannah. It was in a caravan that he was concieved and became my best friend. We worked together as a team and became close. So, Elliott was not forced to live in a caravan. That was his heritage, that is where he began his existence. The work he does today emulates from that style of living, from those type of people.
The word narcissist has been bantered about on here, mainly by Hannah. She accuses me of controlling Kay through my narcissism and need to control. Yet, her concluding remark on here aptly demonstrates her narcissistic tendency. Her control over Elliott that she claims not to have. “Elliott and I will not be commenting on your post anymore.” She is giving Elliott her voice and talking on his behalf. Exactly what she accused me of doing with Kay. Hypocritical, YES.
Elliott Said
You say I did nothing to stop Hannah—do you believe that’s because she’s an object to be acted upon? Or do you see her as a person with agency to make her own choices (referencing 2 Nephi 2:13-14)? Do you think it’s appropriate for a husband to take away his wife’s agency and control her actions?
No it is not appropriate but that means it is not appropriate for Hannah to talk on Elliott’s behalf, like she did here. One rule for us and another for her. It must be so obvious to the reader what Hannah is.
We Did Our Best 