Elliott Said
Derek R Smart I’m curious how you’ve been able to accurately assess the character of someone you banished from your life and denied access to their own mother over three years ago.
Derek
I have been looking closely at your claim her. For three years you have given us the Silent Treatment. People in church have asked, almost everytime I am well enough to attend, “are they still not talking to you, are they still giving you the silent treatment?” and so on. Most congregationalists have noticed you ignoring us. Most who have been to my grandchildren baptism ask why I was not there. Many ask why my grandchildren do not sit with us. I know it is because Hannah is narcissistic but they think it is because of your disrespect towards us. Others witnessed you blanking your mother and me. All in all it is common knowledge that you refuse to communicate with us. But I could not figure out why you have just been so vocal over your defence. Then I realised. I said that to you when we originally fell out. Since then we have made friends and it obviously became null and void. I have not said that this time, but how conniving of you being so dishonest in an attempt to gain advantage and try to make me look bad. Yes, I said that at that time in the heat of that moment but as a father it is all words to try and make you see sense but it does not relate to this fall out by you. You took the initiative and blocked us everywhere, sent back birthday presents via your friend Caroline. Refused to answer my letters to you offering you an olive branch. Everything we tried you blocked or ignore it. All the evidence is firmly against you. You did give us the Silent Treatment, you have contravenes the commandment to honour your parents and you have broken 5 related commandments, like the new and everlasting covenant. So please, stop the nonsense over me giving you the silent treatment and when Hannah tries to get you to say anything like that again realise that she is not the sharpest tool in the shed and pray about it
You may think that my words are meant to ridicule you, but let me assure you and your siblings that they are not. They are intended to teach you not to say or do anything without first carefully considering the consequences, then give yourself time to consider it again before you either say it or do it. I have spent many hours in the debating rooms on the internet. I know how to scrutinise and disect words spoken without thinking. I know how to say things and how to avoid ridicule in how I say it. I am your father, and I love you. If anybody else they would do far worse than I. Just remember, I love you, so I am trying to give you wisdom anybody else might try to destroy you. If you have something in your life that you want to keep secret, then be careful what you say about me. It is called cause and effect. If you bang your head against a brick wall, you will get a headache. It is better to give your way to a dog than it is to be bitten by it. The worst thing you can do to annoy me is to lie about me, or worst still, make assumptions that you turn into your fact.
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