Yesterday, I walked outside and bumped into my Jenny. Jenny hugged me so tight and for so long I almost fell over. I had only seen her a couple of weeks ago and she was so pleased to see me. Kay came out and she did the same to her. She is such a lovely girl. Naomi once said to me “you will die a sad and lonely old man” Appalled at such a statement from a daughter to her father, Jenny vowed to never let that happen. My children used to hug me in the same loving way but it has been many years since they last hugged me. I think Khadra did at her wedding but that was the last time she was nice to me. Hugs now are reserved for their spouses and children. With exception to Steven. He hugs me every day, without fail. Steven really loves his mum and dad. He has more empathy then all of his siblings put together. Jenny’s hug made me realise that I am loved. That it is my children’s loss for them to emancipate Kay and I. I worried that I would die before restitution could be achieved. I have to accept that will be more then likely. Derek once told me that he doubts if he will forgive me in this world and probably not in the next. Yes, he claims to be a devout Christian. Yet I cannot recall a single event that i did to warrant such retribution, apart from disliking sports. But this paragraph is a realisation for me that I am not alone, as Naomi thought I would be. Things will work out OK for us. We have more than enough people who love us and care for us. So stop it now Derek and forget your time with them since they married and relish the time we raised them. That must be enough.
I’m coming to the final few rounds of this boxing match that we have been in with my children. I have been talking to my Pseudo adopted daughter who has reminded, and brought to my attention, a few very Interesting things, like why wouldn’t my daughter, Khadra, speak to her whilst they sat in the same class in university, something very suspicious, like guilt, behind it that I cannot divulge here. Khadra is a bit of a strange girl with strange ideas and quirks.
So, we had six children, as we had planned on having. We raised those children as best as we could. It was not easy and Kay and I made many sacrifices and had to go without many things so that our children didn’t have to. Raising our children was the most enjoyable time of our life. We had times of anguish, when Derek had 3rd degree burns on his face and hands, when he was two years old, caused by a petrol bluff when I was lighting a fire, Donny pulled a boiling hot cup of coffee on himself, Derek broke his arm jumping out of a tree and again jumping off a wall, and a few other minor injuries. But nothing life threatening. They were quite literally good kids. Obedient, thoughtful, kind, considerate, helpful, noisy, excited, happy, pious and loving. Christmas’ and birthdays were always fun times. we took them on a 7000 mile road trip across the USA and they were so responsible. It was a time that we shall never forget and will always cherish.
Five of them just changed dramatically when they hit puberty and got into relationships or married. It was at that point we lost them, here on earth. They succumbed to the enticing of Satan by the worldly nature and beliefs of their partners and their partners friends. I am getting tired of elaborating how they did it but I know they did. The first signs of them becoming wayward was the loss of empathy they all fell foul of. They would go against us and not care, indeed, they enjoyed upsetting us. Our friend told us, only today, that how they have acted towards us is really bizarre. She was there for a big part in their lives and witnessed the change from good kids to obnoxious adults. But, they are now adults. If they want to open a WhatsApp group where they can go and make their pie in the sky assumptions, speculations, and conjectures about us then who are we to stop them. That they did not invite Steven to the private club is very telling. They obviously do not want anyone their who is going to contradict their assumptions, as Steven no doubt would do. If they want to block us on Facebook, not read our messages and letters, look through us like we are not their when we try to talk to them. Call the police if we try to contact them or disagree with them. Coerce and brainwash their children, our grandchildren, into excluding us, then they can do just that and their is nothing that I can do about it.
What I can do to Derek, Donny, Naomi, Khadra and Elliott is to make an application to the court for access to my grandchildren. The law states that children become better adults when they have interaction with their grandparents and to keep those children from seeing their grandparents is the essence of poor parenting. The expectation of our society is that, where possible, grandchildren should be allowed to see their grandparents. They will ask their own questions when they become adults and there will be a potential for them to emancipate their parents, after all, their parents did it. So if they want to be bad parent by preventing their grandparents from seeing their grandchildren then they can, but their will be consequences as the law and society frowns upon it.
I am going to casually talk to social services and tell them the story of what 5 of our children did to us and then, if access is possible, make an application to the court for access rights. The government take a dim view of people refusing access to grandparents so making the application sooner rather than latter would be to our benefit. It may not transpire before we die and it would seem that Derek has tainted his children against us, but we will try. They have ruined our end of life experience and have made us sad but not even that will melt their icy cold hearts, indeed, it will make them even more resilient knowing that they have hurt us. Oh the sadness to watch your wife break down not knowing why she has been emancipated by kids she dearly loves. It is shameful and cruel. Poor Kay. One thing that they seem to forget is that there will be a forth phase in which we will get them back as they once were. You see, they have been sealed to Kay and I for time and all eternity in a sacred ordinance in the Holy House of the Lord, the Temple. So there will be a reconciliation wither they want it or not and they will have to stand accountable for contrivening the commandment to honour their mother and father and contravening the principle to not give their family the silent treatment. One way or another, they will have to answer to their transgressions, as will we all, whether it be here, on earth, or at the judgement bar.
We Did Our Best 