[26/06, 22:45] Derek: Donny, I have just had a message from the police saying that Becci wants nothing to do with me. The have read a message from mum and has attributed it to me. I have not written to her so can you explain to me what she is trying to do. Does she mean me and mum. only I have no intention of speaking to her.
[26/06, 22:46] Derek: Donny, I have just had a message from the police saying that Becci wants nothing to do with me. The have read a message from mum and has attributed it to me. I have not written to her so can you explain to me what she is trying to do. Does she mean me and mum. only I have no intention of speaking to her.
[27/06, 13:17] Derek: Are you giving me the silent treatment Donny. Only I would like to know in case we stumble upon each other so that I know how to act, say at Steven’s, although that will not be the case with Becci now that Steven has banned her from his home. You need to look up the meaning of “Autonomy” son, especially the religious content and how it is a tool of Satan’s. Just take a few second to let me know if you too are excluding us. The police said you sanctioned Becci’s complaint against you dad so I assume you agree with her bizarre logic.
[27/06, 13:39] Smart Donny: No I am not š
Just been busyā¦
[27/06, 13:40] Derek: OK
[27/06, 13:41] Smart Donny: š sanctioned!!! She is a big girl Dad, she makes her own choices, she doesn’t need me to give approval for anything.
[27/06, 14:20] Derek: I know she is Donny, or that she is an autonomous, which is not a good thing. But she contacted mum and mum answered her, with some help from me, but then told the police that the message was from me. That was a lie. I helped mum with a passionate plea to which she totally ignored and feeling cornered she over reacted. She may be a big girl but by her own admission she is mentally unwell, borne out by her belief in autonomy and it’s impossibility to exist. That means that her destructive attitude needs some kind of control and you are best suited for that job. She did something almost unforgiveable to me and must stand accountable for her betrayal of my trust before this will go away. I am going to tell you now that the diabetic specialist told me, just a couple of days ago, that I am dangerously ill with my sugar levels. I am in a constant state of hyperglycaemia feeling comatose, fatigued and disorientated all the time. They said it is extremely concerning and things look like they are starting to go wrong. I believe that mum told her that after which she threatened your mother with the police. Where is her compassion Donny. Mum was offering her an olive branch. Where is her care. Common traits of a autonomist. She even refused to defend you and Jacob as you have your own autonomy and she does not influence you. Rubbish, we all influence each other. I have done nothing wrong. I am happy with things as they are. I honestly do not want this senseless bickering and I do not want to fall out with you, but most importantly, I do not want to befriend Becci, and now, sadly, neither does Steven. He witnessed and sanctioned every word that was written to Becci sat in his front room. She is now no longer welcome there as a result of her nasty behaviour. I love you son, that is the absolute truth. I do not like this but read the message and feel the compassion on mum’s side and the distain on Becci’s. Again, I am sorry about this but I would sooner be honest with you. It is your time to stand for truth. Love you son, Dad xx.
[27/06, 16:40] Derek: Sanctioned!!! The Police Officers choice of words, not mineš
[27/06, 16:49] Derek: Some interesting reading about autonomy. I believe that Satan is an autonomous evil with a self will coupled with destructive malice and evil intent. I don’t believe that he hangs on a peg in God’s puppet shop waiting to be taken down and sicced on the world like an attack dog. And yes, I believe he has powers way beyond man according to his former rank and status (II Peter 2:11, Jude 19) .Son of the morning (Is:14:12) . Even the fact that the angel Michael had to defend against him (Jude 1:9) is proof enough that he has some use of his faculties and uses them at will to do evil.
There are many ways to describe and discuss sin. Perhaps one definition of major significance is to speak in terms of autonomy. In its simplest form this means self-law or self-government. However, if there is a God who created us and seeks to govern us for our own best good, then autonomy is the height of folly ā as well as sin. It is idolatry on steroids.
We perhaps see this especially played out in the radical trans movement. Here we have folks who have so deified autonomy that they believe they can ā at will ā redefine morality, redefine biology, redefine truth, and redefine reality. Talk about playing God! Talk about kicking God off his throne and elevating mere man in his place.
[27/06, 17:57] Smart Donny: Dad, seriously, do you think I am interested in that??? Besides, your messages are just too longā¦
[27/06, 18:18] Derek: Funny you should say that, but yes. I thought you might be interested in that. I was, which is why I passed it on to you. You used to have an inquisitive interesting mind. I had never heard the word autonomy before Becci labelled herself, you and Jacob as one and could clearly see the origin of her problem. Besides, it is not that my messages are to long it is that you do not have the patients to read them. They are usually informative and interesting. I think your messages are to short and lack the crucial information I seek, namely, your opinion.
[27/06, 18:21] Derek: For Example: “I am going to tell you now that the diabetic specialist told me, just a couple of days ago, that I am dangerously ill with my sugar levels. I am in a constant state of hyperglycaemia feeling comatose, fatigued and disorientated all the time. They said it is extremely concerning and things look like they are starting to go wrong. I believe that mum told her that after which she threatened your mother with the police” that should be interesting or concerning for you.
[28/06, 11:48] Derek: OK Donny. If all you have to say is a insignificant comment on how verbose my messages are, I guess I know the degree to which you care about what your wife has done to your father. It is a typical trait of the Smart children. They do not care and then wonder why they have no good luck. But at least I know what my value is to you. Short enough for you.
[28/06, 16:36] Smart Donny: Seriously??? In a bad mood are you???
[28/06, 19:13] Derek: Yes Donny, I am. Your wife has called the police on your dad, that is me, you dad, who has always supported you. Just that sentence is sick to read. How would you feel if I reported you for something you had not done, you, my son. I would sooner take the blame myself then dob you in, regardless of what you had done. She did the same with Lehi, and got away with it, then tried to have our dog put down by reporting her to the police for a small nip. She is your wife who you have chosen who has called the police on your father who would give his life for you now and for nearly fifty years. I want to know how you are not more apologetic for the behaviour of your wife to your family. She is autonomous. That makes her weird beyond acceptance and a religious zealot serving Beelzebub. But she is your wife so we say nothing. She called the police which makes her autonomy a total failure. The message essentially came from Mum and Steven is so angry about how she has treated his dad that he has banned her from his home. Do you want to risk the same. She is out of order Donny and it is up to you to bring her back in line to insure it does not happen again. So, I am not so much in a bad mood as I am hurt at what she has done and your lack of concern. If you wake in the morning and I am dead how will you feel about your lack of concern and action. If I do die, and it is possible, I will come back to exact my displeasure, that is my solemn promise. Honour your parents and your days in this land will be long.
[29/06, 13:27] Derek: 4 messages totalling 40 words, 10 words per message, none of which is an apology for your wife’s contentious and malicious behaviour. Is that it? Is this what you want? Is that all I should expect to receive? Just let me know so that I know where I stand and i can act accorĆ°ingly.
[29/06, 14:47] Derek: OK I just needed you to say you don’t give a fuck and tell me to fuck off and leave you alone, however, your silence says it all. I am sorry about that. I will leave you alone now. If I see you around I will nod my head and say hello but we will leave it there. I am sorry that it has come to this. It is perfectly obvious that what your wife did was malicious. She called the police on me for your mother saying “Goodbye”. You obviously think that is alright. I do not. Love you son, I always will and have wonderful memories of you. I spoilt you and let you get away with far too much but you were a good kid. You loved your dad. Dad
[29/06, 20:44] Derek: I have got some letters here for you but do not worry I will be sending the back with the correct address on them. Keep clean Donny, keep squeaky clean, just like your wife is. That is what silence costs
[29/06, 20:47] Derek: Grassing on your in-laws does not come cheap.
[29/06, 23:04] Smart Donny: Make up your mind, are you speaking to me or not? because over 120 words later and still I don’t see words like, “sorry for giving you shit son”, “sorry I made you a punching bag for my insecurities”, or, “sorry I talked to you like a cunt”. Remember, I am not Derek or Kay and you treat me like I treat youā¦ Or I can start to say harsh words to you!!! The next words better be meak words from you dad because you need to stop this shit!!! Fuck me, seriously, an educated man is telling me he is going to haunt me!! Come on Dad, get a grip and let’s start a sensible dialogueā¦
[29/06, 23:05] Smart Donny: I am sure I have apologised to you many a time, without conditionā¦
[29/06, 23:24] Smart Donny: Your not writing a novel are youā¦
[29/06, 23:25] Smart Donny: Just some simple wordsā¦
[29/06, 23:25] Smart Donny: Sorry Donnyā¦
[29/06, 23:25] Smart Donny: Unconditional sorry, not sorry but your wife was a twat worss
[29/06, 23:25] Smart Donny: Just sorry would fix it
[29/06, 23:27] Smart Donny: As you can tell, I am kind of pissed off with youā¦ So be succinct and straight to the point with your apology
[29/06, 23:28] Smart Donny: Or do you think your position gives you the status where you don’t need to apologise
[29/06, 23:28] Smart Donny: I never talk to you like thatā¦
[29/06, 23:30] Smart Donny: DAD don’t waste your time quoting scripture to meā¦
[29/06, 23:31] Derek: Ah, the real Donny starts to talk using swear words to make you feel good about how you talk to me. I can say sorry if I have done something wrong, can you? What do you want me to apologise for. Becoming impatient for some kind of empathy from you? Because if you would have answered in a timely manner I would not have become frustrated with you. How would you like it if Jacob’s girlfriend reported you to the police for having no tax on your car. How popular would she be. Your wife grassed on your mother and father to the police. I am old school, families do not do that to each other. If it were your mother I would make it clear to her that we do not do things like that and then I would have apologised to you for her behaviour and insure you that it would never happen again. What did you do, nothing until I mentioned letters that I pass onto you and lie for you to the bailiffs. That is solely because you are my son. As I said, unless I get some kind of reassurance that you have handled it as you should I will not cease in my hunting until I catch the vixen who is causing this. That is who I am. You know that so just do the right thing. I am not interested in your shit about Derek and Kay. It is said to hurt my feelings and my skin is too tuff to feel the mind games. Your wife grassed your parents up to the police. She did the same to us when you were first married and again to Lehi when he got himself in trouble. I understand that she is not all there but neither am I but I would never grass my children up. You choose her as your partner, including her autonomy hang ups, we did our best to welcome her into our family but she is your choice, your responsibility and she grassed us up to the police. Sorry for what Donny, for being offended about being grassed up. Should Steven be sorry because he is as mad as heck about what she did. It is not right to treat family like that. If you want me to apologise you will first have to tell me for what. No doubt you can tell that I am pretty pissed of with you. Tell me to fuck off but don’t ignore me. You can apologise for that when you want. And do not threaten me. I do not like being threatened, it makes me more resolute. Remember who I am, the guy who wiped the shirt out of a known gangster after you took a dump in it.
[29/06, 23:33] Smart Donny: Yeah, I am not reading that, succinct is the key wordā¦ In Google type this, “define succinct”
[29/06, 23:33] Smart Donny: Then get back to me
[29/06, 23:34] Smart Donny: I am not reading messages that I have to scroll through multiple timesā¦
[29/06, 23:35] Derek: Where were you when I nearly died twice in hospital. When to you show your concern for your old man. Where were you Donny. I was always in the hospital with you. Do you owe me an apology for ignoring me at a time when I needed you more then ever
[29/06, 23:35] Smart Donny: Better, let me read that
[29/06, 23:36] Smart Donny: No idea, probably in workā¦ I didn’t find out till after the factā¦.
[29/06, 23:36] Smart Donny: See how my reply was in a couple of lines
[29/06, 23:37] Smart Donny: Press send dad š¤
[29/06, 23:37] Smart Donny: I am not reading messages that I have to scroll through
[29/06, 23:37] Derek: Three weeks I was in there. Steven came every day. Please do not tell me how verbose my texts are. It makes you look less than I think you are
[29/06, 23:38] Smart Donny: Good for Steve, I refer to my last message
[29/06, 23:38] Smart Donny: Fuckā¦ Sorry Donny!!!
[29/06, 23:38] Smart Donny: You got that in you???
[29/06, 23:40] Derek: You reply was in a couple of lines but made no sense. My words are clear and precise. You are the only person who says otherwise
[29/06, 23:41] Derek: Yes, good for Steven.
[29/06, 23:44] Smart Donny: Dad, I have told you multiple times, there is no confusionā¦
[29/06, 23:44] Smart Donny: Sorry Donny
[29/06, 23:45] Smart Donny: And I am condensing it, I feel I am giving you a life lineā¦
[29/06, 23:46] Derek: I am a religious person, Becci has knocked religion out of you. It is one of Satan’ s greatest tool. Autonomy. The do not care and that is exactly how you are sounding to me right now, like you don’t mind offending your old man. Ask Steven what he thinks of his old man. You used to be the same.
[29/06, 23:46] Smart Donny: But maybe the other Smart family was right about you!!!
[29/06, 23:46] Smart Donny: Bec has nothing to do with my religion
[29/06, 23:47] Smart Donny: Autonomy bullshit
[29/06, 23:47] Smart Donny: It’s just an excuse to feel superior about draining the fight out of your partner
[29/06, 23:48] Smart Donny: Because the patriarch rules right???
[29/06, 23:48] Smart Donny: Bully
[29/06, 23:50] Smart Donny: Call me, let’s talk, don’t feel you are a hero behind your keyboard
[29/06, 23:50] Derek: They may well have been. You should know. I lost them partly because your wife could not stop herself from pressing the LOVE button. If a thousand people smoke cigarettes does it make smoking cigarette OK. The badness was there as a result of whatever Derek told them about me. Do you think he was inspired to steel my private and personal belongings and show it to anyone who wanted to see it.
[29/06, 23:52] Smart Donny: Does not senseā¦
[29/06, 23:52] Derek: Yes, we will talk but I have high blood sugar and blood pressure right now. I am feeling drunk.
[29/06, 23:53] Smart Donny: Keyboard warry
[29/06, 23:54] Smart Donny: Looks good when they are typing to a fictional characterā¦. But when it’s your progeny, makes you look like a twat!!!
[29/06, 23:54] Smart Donny: Sorry, typo, I wrote keyboard warrior
[29/06, 23:55] Smart Donny: I am drunk, so should be good
[29/06, 23:56] Smart Donny: Come on, let’s talk, let me actually hear your insults
[29/06, 23:58] Derek: Donny, a very nasty, mentally ill person, Hannah’s mother, said some awful things about me on Facebook. The worst post I have ever read. Becci marked the whole of that post as loving it. Then she tried to put bad feelings between me and my niece, and nearly succeeded. That is what this was about. The night before you were here with her for food when if she had a problem with me she could have said it but she choose to make it public on Facebook. Can you imagine what it was like to read that from someone who was trying to comfort me the night before.
[30/06, 00:01] Derek: If you interpret the truth as an insult then I fear that it is you who is misinterpreting what I am saying. Do you not know who I am?
[30/06, 00:03] Smart Donny: Sorry, didn’t read that, I went upstairs for a weeā¦ Came back down and realised, you still didn’t call me to chat.. but, instead, you decide to justify your slagging me off because of what my wife saidā¦ Like you don’t have the ability to conceptualise the difference in your head???
[30/06, 00:06] Smart Donny: Bluntly, I don’t give a shit, because, this didn’t affect meā¦
[30/06, 00:06] Smart Donny: I don’t careā¦
[30/06, 00:07] Smart Donny: Like, my brother’s and sisters said you was a twat, simply doesn’t affect my relationship with my fatherā¦..
[30/06, 00:08] Smart Donny: But when you start to insult me
[30/06, 00:08] Smart Donny: It’s not a war dad
[30/06, 00:10] Smart Donny: Sad as it sounds, my daughter wont get to have a relationship with her grandfatherā¦.. Or, which ever one dies first
[30/06, 00:11] Smart Donny: Still waiting for an apology
[30/06, 00:12] Derek: You do not care. The attitude of a true autonomous.
[30/06, 00:13] Smart Donny: No, I don’t
[30/06, 00:13] Smart Donny: Apologies to me
[30/06, 00:13] Smart Donny: No, I don’t
[30/06, 00:14] Smart Donny: I can’t help but think you wanted to get rid of your famy
[30/06, 00:14] Derek: I have not insulted you. Perhaps you can list all the things you think I insulted you with because that was not my intention
[30/06, 00:14] Smart Donny: Yeah you have
[30/06, 00:15] Smart Donny: It’s simple, and I will tell you again, sorry Donny
[30/06, 00:16] Smart Donny: Sorry means a lot when it’s unconditional
[30/06, 00:18] Derek: I cannot believe that you would think for a second that I was trying to get rid of my family. Now that is what I call an insult after what we have gone through with them. Ask Steven how I have been affected with my children orphaning themselves from us. I would just love to know what Derek has said to them.
[30/06, 00:19] Derek: I do not know what you want me to apologise for. One sentence and it makes no sense
[30/06, 00:21] Derek: How can sorry be anything else but unconditional.
[30/06, 00:22] Derek: I have apologised but I have no idea what for
[30/06, 00:26] Derek: That should affect you because it is the origin of our contentions. One day she is acting like she cares about my depression and the next day she kicks me in the balls as hard as she could. Nobody can put up with that.
[30/06, 00:26] Smart Donny: I don’t give a shit. I am not playing games with you dad. You apologise for the šway you spoke to me and conceptualise your argument with Bec, or, wellā¦
[30/06, 00:26] Smart Donny: I don’t want to go into well
[30/06, 00:29] Derek: I apologise if I have offended you but Becci gets nothing from me. She has got what she wants, us out of the way and a band wagon to jump on. I would not piss on her if she were on fire. She duped me and I hate being duped. You have to put up with her, I don’t
[30/06, 00:31] Derek: Why not, go into well. I have been hurt enough by my children, one more will not matter, so tell me what your threat is
[30/06, 00:34] Smart Donny: Remember what I said about succinctly reply
[30/06, 00:34] Derek: I never spoke to Becci, your mother did. She just assumed it was me and told the police it was me. She thought she was clever but turns out she is a fool. Assumptions are a bad thing when you turn them into fact
[30/06, 00:37] Smart Donny: Bullshit dad, bullshit. Succinct, either you apologise to me or not.
[30/06, 00:39] Derek: When I was in university we were taught to write as if the recipient were uneducated in order to get your message across clearly and precise. Some people would not understand what you are saying if you say it succinctly in a brief and clearly expressed manner
[30/06, 00:40] Derek: I have. I am going to bed now. You are being unreasonable and I am tired
[30/06, 00:44] Smart Donny: I’m not reading your lengthy explanations.
[30/06, 00:45] Smart Donny: Dad, it’s simple.. you apologise to me or
[30/06, 00:46] Smart Donny: I’m sorry dad, for me the greater imperative is my daughter has a relationship with her grandparents
[30/06, 00:47] Smart Donny: But, if you can’t conceptualise the difference between her and her mother
[30/06, 00:47] Smart Donny: Then I don’t want to say it
[30/06, 00:47] Smart Donny: Please don’t push me dad
[30/06, 00:47] Smart Donny: I am waiting for an apology
[30/06, 00:48] Smart Donny: Simple words
[30/06, 00:48] Smart Donny: Sorry Donny.
[30/06, 13:04] Derek: I am just going to lidl’s, do you want me to get you something whilst I am there. No thanks, can you not come to mine right now.
Even after all that big row she caused she still has to go fishing to Steven. He does not want her at his home Donny. Please, is there anything you can do to get it through her thick head. Tell her to stay away, she is too much trouble.
[30/06, 13:39] Derek: This is what autonomous people are like. They do not give up because They always think they are right, narcissism
[04/07, 07:17] Derek: You should have long since apologised for your appalling, uncivilised, and loutish behaviour to your father. It saddens me that you have not, but your silence has, once again, spoken volumes. You tried to bully me into complying with your demands on me, and alcohol can be no excuse for your inhibitions.
[25/07, 13:39] Derek: Donny,
You have left me with no alternative but to send you this letter and subject you to my characteristic need for verbosity that you hate so much. Like my other wayward children, you have done something that can easily be defined as horrendous and directed against me, your father, and knowing what you have done, you are now crawling back under the rock you came from to hide from your shameful, appalling behaviour. Now, that is talking to you harshly and now you can cry āhe shouldnāt talk to me like that mum, not like the handful of acquiescent, harmless messages I sent you that were perfectly innocuous and just a father talking to his son in a manner that I have always done. The problem was that you were dishonouring your father by ignoring my messages, without reason, which was frustrating me, and my patience with you was running out. When you did eventually answer me, you had irresponsibly drunk 3 parts of a bottle of whisky and were stone drunk and incoherent. As you passed mum, at my front door, you said to her, he just cannot talk to me like that. Like what, Donny? I have the transcript of the conversation I had with you. I know what I said. and in essence I explained to you what your troublesome wife had done to your loyal father. Indeed, you knew that I was extremely unhappy at what she did. I also made it clear that I was not happy at you ignoring me without reason. What did, could, you take from my handful of messages that was offensive in any way. There was nothing, was there Donny. You just seemed to want to join the other brats on the “letās get Dad” band wagon, didn’t you? Another one gone, I heard you say, but you failed to look at the other side of the coin, to me it is another one who has succumbed to the evil intentions and enticingās of their jealous and envious partners. You too have migrated to the darker side where you found the āShe Devilā who asked you to marry her. You had obviously planned the outcome you wanted. I said nothing that should have caused you to act in such a savage and uncivilised manner, absolutely nothing. This has been contrived.
Respect me Respect my Values and Moral Beliefs
I am 70 years old, very soon, and very much āold schoolā. I would never grass my own children or their spouses to the police, or anyone else, for that matter. It is incomprehensibly despicable, what your wife did, YET AGAIN!! Your wife, the person that YOU! decided to accept her marriage proposal and thus agree to be responsible for her as your wife. The same person who wrongly grassed me up, your father, to the police. The man that raised you, fed you, clothed you, educated you, academically and practically, protected you, comforted you, kept you safe and warm, nursed you when you were ill, defended you and most importantly, Loved You UNCONDITIONALLY, ready to lay his life down for you in an instant, then and now. But it is obvious that you do not remember those small anomalies. My inherent values system is that you always bite your tongue with family, even if you disagree with them. The peace is therefore always kept, and everyone gets on. You never, ever go to the police to report them for sending you a harmless text message saying āgo for it. Goodbyeā she was then told by the police that it is not and offence to answer a text, especially as mum was just reply to your wifeās text message. She then resorted to request the police to tell āMe!!ā, an innocent by-stander, that she wants nothing to do with me. Well good, was my initial reaction, as I want nothing to do with an autonomist, like her, however, she had no need to make that request as she already said, in her text to mum, that she had kept her distance from me so had not spoken to me for a long, long time, and I had not had anything to do with her. Where is her logic, why point a figure at me, I have not contacted her. Indeed, she had contacted us; we did not contact her, we were happy with the distance that we had placed between us. She contacted us, via text message, about attending Almaās Sports Day, then told the police she wanted nothing to do with us. Then why contact us? Hypocritical? YES! Of course it was. Our rejection of her invitation made her angry and vindictive causing her to seek vengeance for our rejection and her autonomy caused her to call the police because Mum defiantly answered her. She is sick Donny. You have to be aware of that. Normal people are not so contradictory and hypocritical in their actions and modus operandi.
Autonomy
Autonomy, a relatively new word to me. I believe that Satan is an autonomous evil with a self-will coupled with destructive malice and evil intent. Perhaps one definition of major significance is to speak in terms of autonomy. In its simplest form this means self-law or self-government. However, if there is a God who created us and seeks to govern us for our own best good, then autonomy is the height of folly. We perhaps see this especially played out in the radical trans movement. Here we have folks who have so deified autonomy that they believe they can, at will, redefine morality, redefine biology, redefine truth, and redefine reality. Talk about playing God! Talk about kicking God off his throne and elevating mere man in his place. Foolishly, I did not realise just how much she had brainwashed you until I saw you using the words “conceptualise, compartmentalised and autonomy”, all words are trademark phrases of the autonomist. It individualises the responsibility of each person’s actions to that person alone, effectively, wiping natural influences off the map of life. You do not take any responsibility for your wife’s behaviour even though it is all too clear that you influence each other. If you are never responsible for anyoneās action, inevitably you would have to say that Hitler did nothing wrong, in his mind. It was his SS officers and such the like. It is a cop out of responsibility for other people’s poor decisions. You say, “She is a big girl now, she does what she wants” and that is right, but there is always a consequence and this is you consequence. She has gotten of Scott Free and no doubt feels no guilt for the family feud she has caused, but she is autonomous, she answers to nobody, not even you. If that is what you want, then that is what you have got. I am not autonomous. I believe that you and Becci should act as one, as mum and I do. If your mother grassed Becci up to the police, I would first apologise to you for her poor judgement and expect mum to rectify her actions. I would council with mum to ensure that she knows that grassing up family members for defying her is not appropriate or acceptable. After careful research of autonomism, it is ultra clear to me that it is one of Satan’s greatest assets. He loves the gullible insecure autonomist. They come ready packaged and able to go straight to work for him. They do not naturally care having no guilt or remorse. If that is who Becci is then, I am sorry Donny, we want nothing to do with her. We do not want to witness her imparting her values onto our granddaughter, and just looking at Alma, she already has. We will monitor that very carefully. We do not want to watch her corrupt you anymore then she has. Regardless of the fact that you are married you are still our son, and we have a natural parental love for you. We have wonderful memories of you and our grandchildren, pre-Becci. We hold onto those memories with fondness and love. We cannot be a part of the world you are creating with Becci, to that effect, please never bring her to my home, ever again. As for you, never come her again with whiskey controlling your actions. I am an old age pensioner so if you come here again upsetting your mother and physically abusing me, I will take criminal action against you. You are welcome here when you want to come here, with Alma, Jacob and Lehi, but not Becci.
I know longer know you
You do not believe in God, but you believe in the evils of autonomism inspired by Satan. Let me make my point clear. I am not an autonomist and never will be. I care about my fellow man. You accepted the proposal of your now wife, which is a little strange on its own. I consider that to be a union of two souls having the same desires and goals. If she grasses me up to the police, it is because you have conceptualised her as being a law unto herself so she would not have to ask you for your permission. According to her, you agreed for her to grass me up, taking her autonomy for granted with you. Did she ask you if she could grass on Lehi, twice, and made his life a misery? My conclusion on this point is that like the rest, I do not know you anymore. I do not recognise my son Donny in you. You lasted out longer than the rest but in the end you capitulated. Everything was cool until you met that clown, literally, and now you will not even take your son to work because you feel that he has his own autonomy so is solely responsible for his own choices. Drink and drive was his choice so getting to work is his problem, in the mind of the autonomist. We are not autonomous. Now that is how you eventually lose your children. I will have to be satisfied with my memories of you, pre Becci, and concede that she won the final battle in destroying the Smart family ethics. āThe Coup De Graceā. I believe that you committed sacrilege when attacking your father. You contravened the only Commandment with promise. You have dishonoured your mother and your father, and your consequence is now set in motion to be administered at his pleasure, unless, of course, you recognise your sin, forsake your sin and rectify your sin.
You bullied your elderly father and, in the process, upset your mother
Donny, you owe me an apology for your inhumane bullying and for physically assaulting me, your 70-year-old sick father, damaging both ligaments and soft tissue in my index fingers, that still cause me a great deal of pain today, three weeks after the event. I threw several punches at you that night, however, I intentionally caused them to miss their mark because I did not want to hurt you, why would I, you are my son, I just wanted you out of my face. I could tell by the smile on your face, as you twisted and bent my fingers, during your act of dirty fighting, that you did not have the same concerns as I did for you.
It was not me who ignored your messages, no, you intentionally ignored mine. My messages began civilised. This is my first message that you ignored.
āDonny, I have just had a message from the police saying that Becci wants nothing to do with me. They have read a message from mum and has attributed it to me. I have not written to her so can you explain to me what she is trying to do. Does she mean me and mum. only I have no intention of speaking to herā. Totally innocent.
This is my last of those messages as follows.
āOK I just needed you to say you don’t give a fuck and tell me to fuck off and leave you alone, however, your silence says it all. I am sorry about that. I will leave you alone now. If I see you around I will nod my head and say hello but we will leave it there. I am sorry that it has come to this. It is perfectly obvious that what your wife did was malicious. She called the police on me for your mother saying “Goodbye”. You obviously think that is alright. I do not. Love you son, I always will and have wonderful memories of you. I spoilt you and let you get away with far too much but you were a good kid. You loved your dad. Dadā
Nothing I said should have caused you to act so appallingly. It was not me who opened your whiskey bottle and poured it down your throat, no, you were very capable of doing that all on your own. I did not force you to come to my home, in the early hours of the morning, drunk and disorderly instantly attacking me thuggishly and antagonistically, talking diatribe close up to my face, making no sense or having no reasoning to your words, no, you did that all on your lonesome. I did not ask you to twist both of my index figures and bend them back whilst you looked at me and smiled, happy at what you were doing to me. You were more than capable of doing that with no help from anyone else. You then punched me in the nose for good measure. We are not talking about equally fit men, no, I am a 70 years old man, suffering with all manner of ailments incapable of defending myself like you are, 20 years younger than I. I can barely stand on my own. If our ages and health were equal you would have been subjected to a good hiding that night, but you acted like a coward and assaulted me, a sick old man. My son, who I have always been proud of, beat up a sick old man, his father, whilst inebriated with whisky. How sick does that sound. I am so glad that Steven was not here to witness it, you would have been more equally matched but how do you fight with a dirty fighter, like you have always been, but perhaps, if he were here, you would not have been in my face winding me up and annoying me. He told me just the other day that he does not want to speak to you until after you apologise to his dad for your disrespect and violence. He feels it is disgusting for you to attack your father but made worse by my age and poor health. You cannot be excused for what you did to an old age pensioner, but you need to apologise for your unacceptable behaviour If you do not then please find yourself in the same category as your sibling.
But, letās be realistic. That is not where it all began is it. No, your autonomous wife with her autonomist beliefs instigated and orchestrated this entire escapade. It was her choice to announce that I was upset at her distancing herself from me, which was a lie. It was her that made the awful assumption that she was talking to me and not Kay. It was her who threatened Kay with the police. It was her who dialled the police and grassed me up when I had not even spoken to her. Every aspect of these unfortunate events stems back to her and her autonomist stance and beliefs. She instigated the entire unfortunate happenstances before she even met you. This has been a meticulously contrived plan in the mind of a mentally sick person. If not you, then someone else. What was she thinking of when she rang the police. What mindset was she in when she announced that she was distancing herself from me when mum and I were distancing ourselves from her. What logic filled her mind when she asked the police to tell me she wants nothing to do with us when it was her who contacted us. We did not contact her. It is all to obvious that she has serious issues. What was she thinking of when she āLOVEDā that horrendous post, full of lies and innuendos, sent to me by Hannahās mum on Facebook.
If you apologise, I will forgive you for what you have done, and forget your heinous act of dishonour against me but until I see a marked change in your wife’s attitude, I will not give her the honour of my forgiveness. if you do not, you will suffer the consequences. I am religious Donny. I may not altogether believe in the authenticity of the LDS church, but I believe in God, in his son, Jesus Christ, and in the fallen angel, Satan. I believe in the scriptures and all the commandments and principles they contain. I believe them without reservation or question. I know you will see this as another one of my verbose messages, however, that is who I am, that is how I have been academically trained to be. I am too old to change it, but why would I change something that I am good at and enjoy. The ball is now in your court. Ignore this letter and I will take it that you have jumped on your siblingās bandwagon. Apologise, and you have my word of honour that we will forget it ever happened. This entire event has been the result of yours and your wifeās choices. You need to rectify it.
(1) Becci sent Kay a text message inviting me & mum to Almaās sports day. In response mum wrote the following.
(2) Based on your reply I would not have come anyway. You see Becci nether I or Derek agree with your claimed distancing. I agree with Derek that the distancing has been on our part. You make it sound as though Derek is at fault. He is not. All the time you feel that a resolve is not possible. What you did was fundamentally wrong and until you understand that we will have to remain at a distance. I am sorry, I wish it were different but it is not.
(3) If you have a problem with Donny and Jacob, I’m afraid you will need to take that up with them, I cannot and will not speak for their actions. They are their own people with their own minds, beliefs and act on their own autonomy and neither are influenced in any way by me.
(4) She then warned Kay that if she did not stop messaging her she would report her to the Police. Mum messaged one last time because she knew she had not done anything wrong. The next day I had a message from the police telling me that she wanted nothing to do with me. I gratefully accepted that, but it was nothing to do with me. She was making another one of her autonomist assumptions that she turns into fact.
(5) I then asked you for an explanation and you ignored my messages
(6) You ignored my initial messages to you
(7) You accused me of being disrespectful to you, I was not.
(8) You picked a verbal fight with me on the Saturday night whilst you were drunk and disorderly, none of which made any sense and you demanded I apologise to you but could not tell me what for.
(9) You knocked on my door gone 1.00am even though I asked you not to come here drunk.
(10) You pushed your way past mum then came into the living room shouting in my face and making no sense.
(11) I pushed you back, behind Jacob, several times but you persisted in shouting in my face
(12) I threw some punches at you intentionally missing you not to hurt you
(13) I pointed my finger at you ordering you out. It was then that you grabbed hold of my finger and twisted it as hard as you could and then bent it back all the time smiling at me. You did exactly the same to my other finger then, for good measure you punched me in the nose.
(14) Eventually you left and blocked me on your social media making no attempt to apologise for what you did
What have I done to deserve the way you and Becci have treated me, apart from asking you Why? I wonder what she told you. She is autonomous Donny. One of the most disliked people on the planet and always an Anti-Christ.
[26/07, 16:20] Derek: Becci said: One more message and I will be reporting you to the police!! You have been warned, again!!
We Did Our Best 