Curse: a calling for harm or injury to come to someone. 2. : a word or an expression used in cursing or swearing. 3. : evil or misfortune that comes as if in answer to a curse.
The Curse of the Broken Homes
I was sat in my hospital bed contemplating the world and all of its gifts. People will undoubtedly know that I am religious, or that i believe in the existence of good and evil, unsurprisingly, I was considering the last days and what they might look like, when my mind wondered what anomalies would be conducive of the last days events. What I should be mindful of and without a doubt the subject that kept returning to my thoughts was the family unit. Or more accurately, the destruction of the family unit. The family is the driving force of this entire world, universe. Families are the strongest influence in a child’s life. They create the next generation of thought and being. They are tomorrow’s leaders and descision makers. If it were possible for Satan to take control of the family, his job to thwart the plan of salvation would be all but completed. He does not have that control right now, but he is getting there, slowly but surely, the city walls are falling and corroding and he is gaining important ground. Where do you expect to find the greatest concentration of Satan’s evil influences? My answer to that used to be pubs, clubs, whore houses, betting shops. Drug dens, prison, and such the like, but those people need no tempting, no convincing to do wrong. Satan has already secured there loyalties. There is no opposition to be found in the night clubs of the world. No, the epicentre of the worlds most fiercely fought battles are in the family, at church on Sunday, in the mind and heart of the devout, misguided Christian, in the administration of Christian organisations, Satan’s army is ready to confront you at any Christian venue the head of which is the family. Cohabitation is gradually overtaking marriage in our population. Easier, quicker and cheaper. Cohabitation is destroying the values of marriage. Marriage is an imperative family value. Without it Christianity cannot survive. It is a means to an end. Destroy the value of the family and you destroy the church and it’s plan of salvation. That is what Satan wants. That is why it is important to be clothed in the full armor of God to be prepared to do battle in an instant and in all subtleties. So it is important for the reader to know that there exists an evil force in this world that is hell-bent in thwarting the whole plan of salvation to stop any success achieved by. God. And that evil will try anything to win ground. There is a multiplicity of people ready to assist at any time with your demise by destroying your relationship with God or,indeed, good. People you would never consider to be agents of the devil ready to disable you. So, his primary goal. His number one achievement is to destroy the family.
Families under Attack
1 have written so Many Essays on my Family each having a different slant to them but never one that exposes children who display so much callous disregard to parents that sincerely loved them with every ounce of there being – We loved our children literally without condition. Kay and I would have literally given up our lives to save theirs. Such feelings are not always felt by everyone. To willingly sacrifice your own lives so that your offspring could survive is a feeling that is difficult to express in words or any other form of communication. There is no other feeling quite like it. To allow your life to be taken without question to prevent your children from losing their lives. It is the essence of parental care.
I mistakenly thought that such deep feelings would almost certainly have been reciprocated by ones children. That such a rigid bond would automatically be returned from child to parent. In all honesty I felt that reciprocation for my parents, to protect them with my life. I felt like that up until the day they both died. 1 never lost it and it never diminished.
My entire parental responsibility was entrenched with a sence of protection. To shield your children from harms way at all cost preventing them from walking out into the pathway of an oncoming speeding car or to inoculating them against the flu virus. Our entire existance was predicated on how our actions would affect the children. Such emotion cannot be written in the form of an equations or written as a synopsis. It is an emotion that is impossible to adequately verbalise. It is a unseen spiritual bond.
After giving such a unique description of a heavenly bond you would have thought that such a bond would be the right of all human beings, and it is for those up until the age of adolescence or accountability at which time the brain takes on its own identity Adolescence is the transitional phase of growth and development between childhood and adulthood. The World Health Organization (WHO) defines an adolescent as any person between ages 10 and 19. Many changes take place during adolescence. Prominent among these are physical changes, including puberty, and social and psychological changes, with development of reasoning skills, rational thought, and moral judgment. Stereotypes that portray adolescents as rebellious, distracted, thoughtless, and daring are not without precedent. Young persons experience numerous physical and social changes, often making it difficult for them to know how to behave. During puberty young bodies grow stronger and are infused with hormones that stimulate desires appropriate to ensuring the perpetuation of the species. Ultimately acting on those desires impels individuals to pursue the tasks of earning a living and having a family. At such an age the person loses their reliance of their care giver to develope their own personality from the multitude of alternatives found it the vast social attributes of an ever changing world of morals and value that are all to often layed out before them to choose from. These choice will ultimately change, develope and grow into the personalities that they will ultimately become, like rolling a dice, or a pure game of chance.
It is during this time when the dice is rolled and the finale score is recorded. That you will either be cheering at their graduation ceremony or witnessing their committal to prison at the Old Bailey, or a multiplicity of levels in between . That was the beginning of the end of our experience in parenting. You see we believe in giving advice to our children for as long as they want it alternatively they make there own choices. My five children all decided to date and marry people from broken homes, against our advice. They made a well known and disastrous life mistake. Each of them became materomonially ensnared with partners from broken homes
Families are the strongest influence in a child’s life. They can be a positive force, equipping them to socialise appropriately and contribute to society, or, they can be negative one, leading to significant disadvantages across the board. In the past, the family would usually consist of two married biological parents and their offspring. Yet as we dive deeper into the 21st Century, Britain has been seeing an extreme shift in the composition of the family. One that has, objectively, been far from wholly positive. Today, we see more couples choosing to cohabit and less couples opting to embark on marriage. In fact, there was a 25.8% increase in cohabiting couples between 2008 and 2018.
Why is this? Put simply, values are changing. The rise of secularism in the West has meant that the need to get married is less pressing for couples today. A spiritual sactity to a relationship has become widely regarded as an accessory rather than defining pupose, as it was before. Research indicates that this shift from the traditional family to cohabitation has left families vulnerable to breakdown, which can have a huge impact on children.
The rate of family breakdown in the UK is notably higher than other Western countries, with only 68.9% of children living in a two-parent household, significantly lower than the average of 84%. Unfortunately, family break up is becoming more and more common. The Marriage Foundation state that “in the UK 450 out of every 1,000 children will experience the break-up of their parents before their 16th birthday”, a staggering statistic.
But just how, exactly, does having a broken home cause damage to the lives of Britain’s children, and adolescents more generally?
One of the biggest areas to suffer as a result of an unstable home is in education. Research has shown that children’s academic performance is recurrently severely impacted by the breakdown of a family. A meta-analysis examined 92 studies that compared children from two parents households to children from broken homes, with the results showing that the children from broken homes consistently scored lower than children from two parent households on a range of measures including academic achievement, conduct, psychological adjustment, self-concept, and social relations.
The abundance of information to support this shows us clearly that broken families too often result in children being at a disadvantage when it comes to their education which will, in turn, limit their opportunities in the future.
It is not only the emotional distress caused by family breakdowns that causes children to perform worse academically but also the lifestyle changes; research has found that the instability caused by a family’s breakdown can affect a child’s daily routine dramatically and therefore lead to stress and a compromised performance in other areas of their lives.
As well as a stable home, the importance of a strong father figure cannot be overstated. A multitude of psychological and sociological research suggests that not having a father present can result in low self-esteem and a lack of confidence which has a negative impact on behaviour at school and therefore on academic performance.
In addition to merely academia, we also see severe impacts in the emotional development of children as a result of divorce or unstable homes.
A family breakup can result in emotional trauma that causes serious issues for a child in later life, such as anxiety, aggression and a generally cynical outlook. This supposition is supported by a study carried out that analysed data from 10,929 mothers with 14-year old children, the study found that mental health problems are especially prevalent among children from broken families, and that mental health problems were on average even worse when the child was born out of wedlock. These emotional effects are not isolated to childhood but can continue throughout a person’s life and, disturbingly, research has shown that children from broken homes are even more likely to attempt suicide.
The mental health issues combined with the lack of academic attainment leads to children from broken homes becoming more likely to turn to crime and deviance. Research found when a child comes from a broken home, it makes them more likely to engage in sexual activity, have children and cohabit at a far younger age than those who are from two-parent households. As well as this, they are more likely to smoke, drink and use illegal drugs.
This environment continually creates an instability that passes through generations, creating a cycle of poverty which is all too difficult to escape. The early intervention foundation found that children from broken homes are twice as likely to grow up poor, living in poverty increases the likelihood that one will seek illegitimate means of obtaining money.
It’s an inescapeable fact that a wealth of research looking at the impact of family composition on the health and well-being of children has repeatedly shown that children who live with married biological parents score better on a range of emotional, physical and social measures. It’s a truth that we, as a nation and society, must not be coy about discussing as education on this issue could likely spare our children a significant deal of emotional pain, trauma, suffering and aid them to a much greater effect in their psychosocial development
It is, of course, necessary to state that simply pointing out the ideal conditions for raising children is in no way shaming or ignoring the struggles of single parents, but instead promoting the traditional family as the prerequisite for optimal childhood development. Britons today must be educated on the benefits of stable families and encouraged to create an environment which will best allow for their children to succeed. Crucially, measures must be put in place to help families post-breakdown, so that a child’s life is their own to determine, and no child is the victim of circumstance.
I think that there is a definite problem with kids from broken marriages. Problems that cannot be disputed or contradicted. Problems that are irrefutable. Problems that have had independence studies that confirm there existence. You maybe lucky it getting a 6 when rolling you dice but equally you may get a 1. No guarantees. So, it is worth serious consideration before you hate a man or woman from a broken home. Five of my children did not have the intelligence to consider the repercussions of who the married
1. my eldest marry the daughter of a confirmed narcissist who split up with her mother and ended up in a relationship with a work colleague.
2. The next ended up in three marriages all of which came from broken homes. The latest is a much dispised practising autonomist whose has a child from a broken marriage and whose parents split up for several years then got back together again
3. The next married a boy whose dad was a alcoholic and whose mother kicked him out of there matrimonial home so that her boyfriend could move in. The boy experienced all of the contentions and negativity that came with an adulterous marriage.
4. The fourth was pretty much the same as the third with adultery being a major factor in the marriage. When my daughter married her son his mother invited her exhusband to ther sons marriage even though alcohol was a major contributor to the failure of their marriage.
5. And finally, the fifth married a mentally retarded alcoholic whose new husband and husband were there at the wedding together celebrating. My sons marriage to their son and step son. His wife also had a son from a different relationship whose father was at his old partners wedding. They are like wild animals cross breeding and commuting adultery and care little who knows
Five children all marrying people from the worst case scenarios, broken homes that you could ever imagine. All involving adultery, contention, arguments, altercation, aggression immorality, deprivation, greed, indiscretions and anything else associated with the ramifications of a failed marriage. I am a Christian so naturally I can see the infiltration of Beelzebub in each case scenario. No need to make any further embellishments. The facts speak for themselves. Many people have. Used the scenario that losing one child is bad enough but losing 5 is a direct indictment on the parents, that is, until the entire story is verbalised. 5 children marrying the worst candidates available to be betrothed to, the most likely to fail. None of them ever liked Kay or I so they did all they could to destroy our union and break us up and destroy our family.
It does not take a genius to see the potential destruction that one divorce can make. To give up too soon can be catastrophic to so many generations destroying so many lives along the way. Taking away the grandparents of children can perpetuate generations of children creating broken families. How can such a selfish decision be taken by a parent on and for vulnerable children who are too young to make the decision themselves. What absolute wickedness feeds the mind of someone so evil, abusive and callous. But tragically such prideful people exist in this world and the sad thing is that they know who they are.
We Did Our Best 